Raise Your Hand Say Yes – Letting Go of Perfection

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Perfection. It isn’t getting us anywhere. And while it might make us think we’re doing the right thing, it actually stands in our way more than most of us realize.

In this month’s solo episode of Raise Your Hand Say Yes, I’m talking all about perfection, what it’s doing to us, how it’s counterintuitive and what I want you to focus on instead.

If you’re ready to shake your perfectionist tendencies, this episode is for you! (And you can grab your cheat sheet here – thank you to Kristl Yuen for the gorgeous hand-lettering!)

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the TED talk that made me cry (and why I do what I do)

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There I was: minding my own business, chopping tomatoes for dinner, when I heard it.

In her TED talk, Reshma Saujani, founder of Girls Who Code, describes a computer science professor talking about the differences between male and female students who visit his office hours with assignment struggles:

The male students come in and say, “Professor, there’s something wrong with my code.” The female students say, “Professor, there’s something wrong with me.”

I immediately burst into tears. Because I see this all the time. Because I feel this all the time. Because this was me in college.

This thing isn’t working, so there must be something wrong with me. 

Saujani’s TED talk was about teaching our young girls the value of bravery over perfection. To which I say a hearty A-FREAKING-MEN. And to which I also say: it’s up to us to not just teach, but to show.

It is up to us to show the young women of this world what bravery is, what it looks like, and what it can accomplish.

It is not enough to tell them they’re worthy even when they don’t get the right answers.
It is not enough to cheer them on for each and every failure, reminding them that, one day, the tides will turn.
It is not enough to teach and coach and tell the stories.

We have to live it.

We have to be brave.

We have to be willing to do the work of shedding our own impossible to live bystandards of perfection.

And, I’ll warn you: it’s fucking uncomfortable. But not doing it because it’s uncomfortable isn’t a good enough excuse anymore. 

This is why I do what I do. It’s why I have a program called 100 Rejection Letters. It’s why I have a podcast called Raise your Hand Say Yes. It’s why I write newsletters and have offerings that seek to inspire and motivate and help you keep your eye on the prize.

It’s not because we need to be more confident. It’s not because there’s something wrong with us.

It’s because I am doing my part to turn a tide that will overwhelm us if we let it. Because this tide of Perfection-over-Everything-Else is one that is strong and deep and has been passed down from generations.

Because I know that bravery happens over time, with little reminders, little nudges, little hints that your intuition is right.

And I know that by helping women show up bravely in their lives, I will do what I can to show future generations what is possible and to show this generation – our generation – what you (and I) need to know to be brave.

That we are not broken.
That our worth is not defined by our successes and our failures.
And that those so-called failures don’t have have to define us if we don’t want them to.

That the choice is ours to make.

Even when it’s hard.
Even when it’s uncomfortable.
Even when it would be so much freaking easier not to.

I do it for my girls. I do it for all of our girls. But I also do it for me. For the girl who couldn’t face the threat of failure so she spent her whole life being nice. And polite. And correct. And doing everything she could to be perfect.

I do it for all of us.

Who do you do it for?

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Laura Simms

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This week on Raise Your Hand Say Yes, I’m talking with Laura Simms once again. Last time she was on the show, we talked about passion and purpose. This week, we’re talking about career – namely, why so many of us are unhappy in ours and what we can do about it.

If you have struggled with settling on a job that you love and aren’t sure where to turn OR if you find yourself balancing the concept of “do what you love” with actually making money, this episode is for you! (Get your cheat sheet here and a huge THANK YOU to Kristl Yuen for creating the cheat sheets this month!)

 

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Laura’s Career Training (free video series)

Laura’s previous RYHSY episode on Purpose

Other RYHSY episodes mentioned:

Lisa Congdon on Evolution

Lisa Congdon on Passion Projects

Emily McDowell

Austin Kleon

Laura’s blog post about finding your Through Line 

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Mara Glatzel

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This week on Raise Your Hand Say Yes, I’m talking with the divine Mara Glatzel about self-care. Newsflash: it’s not just bubble baths and candles!

Mara and I also talk about creating new habits that will serve your creativity, what we can all learn from doritos, and how boundaries are pretty much the best thing ever. Enjoy and get your cheat sheet here!

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Tiffany’s Post: Why self-care is bullshit

Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin

Mara’s Program, The Deep Exhale

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Katie Dalebout

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I loved getting to talk with blogger and podcaster Katie Dalebout this week for Raise Your Hand Say Yes. What started out as a conversation about journaling, quickly became a conversation about the power of emotions (and the discomfort they bring!), shitty first drafts and finding your voice. Want the cliff notes? Get your cheat sheet here!

If you’re someone who’s wanted to start a practice of journaling or is working on honing your creative voice, this episode is for you! You’ll also get to hear Katie and I geek out about all the secret podcasts we want to start. Who knows…crazier things have happened!

PS. Thank you to Kristl Yuen for lettering the cheat sheet for this episode!

PPS. This episode is sponsored by Lacy Young’s Sweet Surrender 21-Day Sugar Detox which starts May 1. If you’ve been wanting to shake your sugar habit, Lacy will get you started with love and support. Bonus: she’s offering a 2-for-1 special which means you have a built in accountability buddy!

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Katie’s Book – Let it Out: A Journey through Journaling 

Katie’s Podcast – The Wellness Wonderland

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes – The Myth of Time Management

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In this week’s episode of Raise Your Hand Say Yes, I go behind the scenes of my own business (and life) to talk about what happened when I gave up the need to be efficient earlier this year and everything I’ve learned (and continue to learn!) about productivity and time management.

If you’re someone who consistently feels overextended, this episode (and the challenge I issue at the end!) is for you. Want the cliff notes? Get your cheat sheet here!

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Lisa Solomon

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I loved talking with Lisa Solomon for this week’s episode of Raise Your Hand Say Yes. We talked about the myth of living a life of balance, the truth about going to (or not going to!) art school, and the power of daily devotion. We also talked about Lisa’s own art projects and what she’s learned about asking for help and the power of community.

Lisa is such a delight and I love how this episode turned into a giggle-fest. If you’re someone who’s seeking balance but finding it elusive, this episode is for you! It’s also for you if you’ve ever let your lack of a formal art education hold you back OR if you’ve let your art school scars hold you back. Want the cliff notes? Get your cheat sheet here!

Lisa, thank you so much! You’re such a treat! 

PS. Thank you to Mazuma for not only sponsoring the podcast but also for keeping my money house in good order! (Want to have your money house in good shape too? Mazuma has you covered!)

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Like this episode and want more? Check out these episodes as well:

Danielle Krysa on Getting Unstuck

Lisa Congdon on Creative Evolution

The 10 Success Secrets of the Highly-Creative 

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Sarah Von Bargen

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I loved talking with Sarah Von Bargen of Yes and Yes for this week’s episode of Raise Your Hand Say Yes. We talked about the choices behind giving yourself space to say yes, how to ask the hard questions, staying productive when you work on so many different kinds of things, and the mistakes Sarah sees so many people making online – maybe you’re guilty too? (I certainly am!)

I’m such a fan of all of Sarah’s work and know that you’ll love hearing from her! Want the cliff notes? Get your cheat sheet here!

Sarah, thank you so much! 

PS. Thank you to Mazuma for not only sponsoring the podcast but also for keeping my money house in good order! (Want to have your money house in good shape too? Mazuma has you covered!)

PPS. Applications are now open for the upcoming round of It’s Business Time and there is only 1 spot left! Want to make 2016 the year you start a business of your own? Hop to it! 

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Sarah’s post about getting a brazilian wax

Sarah’s Post-college Survival Kit

The True Story series

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Kristen Ley

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This week, I had the good fortune of interviewing Kristen Ley of Thimblepress for Raise Your Hand Say Yes and our conversation was one of my favorites! Kristen’s story is the epitome of my raise your hand and say yes philosophy, and it was so inspiring to hear about how she built her business in just a few years by taking risks and keeping her eye on the prize. 

In this episode, we also talk about the power of both faith and hustle and how you can keep going when you’re trying to juggle a million different things. Kristen also offered up wonderful advice to anyone who’s wanting to get started with a business of their own, especially if you’re nervous about marketing!

Kristen! I’m so glad we’re friends now! Thank you for showing up so honestly and being so generous with your stories! I cannot wait for more. xxoo

PS. Like it, love it, and want some more of it? Check out my previous interviews with Leigh Standley of CurlyGirl Designs and Emily McDowell to get even more inside secrets from today’s most popular stationery designers! 

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Michelle Ward

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I’m so excited to have my dear friend Michelle Ward back on the show this week! Spoiler alert: Michelle is one of my favorite human beings ever. This week, we talked about evolution – the evolution of Michelle’s career coaching business over the last 8 years and how things have shifted, including how she handled things after her cancer diagnosis. 

We also talk about the evolution of our It’s Business Time program and what we learned about collaborating with the right people (and why we’re so excited to be launching the program again!). 

If you’re someone who’s not sure how to deal with all the shit life throws at you and keep up with your business, this episode is for you! And if you’re someone who ever struggles with knowing what the absolute right move to make is, this episode is also for you! Enjoy! 

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Mish, I love you to the moon. And back. Thank you for all of it. 

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It’s Business Time (get on the list for priority application!) 

Deb Cooperman

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“The Benefits of Being a Beginner” on Michelle’s blog

“How – and Why! – I experiment with my Business” on Michelle’s blog 

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