This week on Raise your Hand Say Yes, I’m interviewing one of my creative heroes, Leigh Standley of Curly Girl Design about all things creative business related. I’ve been a fan of Leigh’s work for years (you get to hear me geeking out at the beginning of the episode) and was so excited to have her on the show.
In this episode, we talk about one of Leigh’s early experiences with the raise your hand, say yes philosophy. You’ll also learn what she learned from her mom and how she’s handled situations that haven’t gone her way. Hint: she didn’t give up hope or quit. You’ll also learn her advice for someone wanting to get a start in the stationery biz.
If you haven’t read Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed yet, please stop what you’re doing and get it immediately. I dare you not to devour it. I also dare you not to cry at least twice while reading it.
I fell in love with Strayed’s work when she was anonymously writing the Dear Sugar column for therumpus.net, a selection of which was republished as Tiny Beautiful Things. Then Oprah called. (Her. Not me. Yet.)
Last year, I took a one-day writing workshop with Cheryl and 100 other people. It was amazing. At one point, she was talking about uncertainty, about how to keep going when you don’t know how, when you aren’t sure of the outcome, about how to take that step when the deck is stacked against you: she said that you have to say a prayer to the god of doing it anyway.
You have to take a deep breath and go for it even though you have no idea how it will all turn out.
You have to find that teeny bit of faith so that you can take the very next step.
You have to do whatever it takes to start writing on the blank page or painting on the blank canvas. To hit publish on the very first blog post or put your pen down on the very first page of the blank sketchbook you’ve had for years.
I say a prayer to the gods of doing it anyway every single day. When I make an ask for a podcast interview, I hope that the person doesn’t think I’m nuts. When I record the interview, I take a deep breath and hope that I don’t have any awkward pauses or lost trains of thought. When I publish the episode, I hope that you all don’t think I’m nuts and am wasting your time.
When I launched 100 Rejection Letters, a program that I invested all of my time, money, and energy into for months, I said a prayer to the gods of doing it anyway that it would work, that people would get excited about the project, that people would say yes to their own crazyfaith, to their own creative work, to committing to going all in and seeing what happened.
Both of those projects are going better than I ever could have imagined. And I’m still praying to the gods of doing it anyway.
You rarely ever feel ready to start. You have to start anyway. Before you feel ready. Before you have it all figured out. Before you know how the story or blog post or poem ends.
You will figure it out. You really will. And it will turn out better than you ever could have imagined.
Are you willing to give it a try, take a deep breath, say a prayer to the gods, and go? (I dare you.)
PS. Registration for 100 Rejection Letters closes today. There are a dozen bonus kits left. Get yours and let’s go.
There are all kinds of “Who do you think you are?” voices that come up for me when I read that, but, for now, I say So what? So what that I don’t know how? So what that people might think I’m silly or unqualified or not good enough?
These voices in my head that trip me up aren’t working for me.
Worrying that people on Facebook might think I’m ridiculous for thinking that I’m Oprah-worthy isn’t working for me.
Sitting around and whining “Why not me?” when I see someone else sitting across from Oprah isn’t working for me.
It’s time to figure out what will work for me.
It’s time to start saying my dreams out loud, taking steps towards making them a reality, and finding out what I’m truly capable of.
It’s time to fucking do this y’all.
So here’s my out-loud-omg-I-can-hardly-believe-it dream list for the next year:
appear on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday
Land a literary agent and get a publishing contract for a book
Be featured as a regular (and paid!) contributor to a well-known blog
Do a TED talk
Be paid to speak at a conference
Host an in-person retreat that sells out
Secure sponsorship for my podcast
Write a monthly “ask a life coach” column for Real Simple
This feels huge.
My year is going to be spent working towards these goals (among others!). Wondering how I’ll get it all done while sustaining my coaching business and taking care of my sweet babies? Me too!
But I’m committed to finding out. I’m committed to trying my hardest and seeing what kinds of opportunities come as a result.
Wanna follow along? I’m keeping a secret blog as part of 100 Rejection Letters where I’ll be sharing everything I learn along the way. You can get year-long access for only $97 (and a payment plan is available!).
Or you can commit to your own rejection letters project and do your own work while following along with mine. We have an amazing group of over 50 women who are all working towards the same goal for their lives. It is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever been a part of. Registration closes Monday and there are a handful of bonus kits left. Is one of them yours?
Regardless of whether you sign up for the program or not, what dreams can you say out loud? What fucking-crazy goals would you like to accomplish that are bubbling up in you as you read this?
Whatever they are, take a moment to say them out loud. Leave a comment on this post. Write them down and share them on instagram. Tell your best friend.
Saying them out loud gives them power.
It’s time, Love. You’ve got this.
**photo by me; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching
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This week on Raise your Hand Say Yes, I’m interviewing one of my favorite bloggers, Elise Blaha Cripe about starting before you’re ready. Elise is a powerhouse at making things happen and I was so excited for the chance to go behind the scenes of her process!
In this episode, we talk about Elise’s motto “Just start.” and how that fuels the creative work that she does! We also talk about overcoming perfectionism, escaping fear, getting vulnerable, and staying productive. This episode is jam-packed with awesome!
This week, I was thrilled to sit down for an interview with Tara Mohr about her new book (out next week!) Playing Big.
In this episode of the podcast, Tara and I talk about what playing big means for women and what it actually looks like (you may be surprised!). We also talk about how praise can be just as damaging as criticism, what self-care really means, and how to focus on service first. We also dive into the topic of fear and how you can move past it towards what you want for your life.
It’s time to change the world y’all. Let’s hop to it. (Um. No pressure.)
Tara’s book comes out next week, and she’s offering a fun pre-sale special! I’m hosting a giveaway on Instagram too! Leave a comment on the giveaway post before Oct. 12 for your chance to win! (Giveaway open to US peeps only.)
We spend all of our time thinking, “Oh. If only I could get a book deal, I’d be legit. Maybe if I keep writing, a publisher will happen upon my blog and give me a five or six figure deal.”
Or we look at someone else’s website, a coach or artist who has it so figured out and whose copy is super en pointe and think, “Oh. I should hire her copywriter so that my site sounds that good too and then I’ll be a successful coach.”
Or we see how happy our painter friend is and think, “Man. If I’d just gone to art school and learned to paint instead of being a boring Economics major, I’d be that happy too, living a life of whimsical abandon.”
It rarely happens like that.
You know what got me to where I am now really? Years of doing the work, of moving through the uncomfortable, of writing and refining and showing up, even when I wasn’t sure of the how. Yes, Alexandra Franzen is an amazing writer, but if you don’t know what you want to say, it’s not going to land. She isn’t going to come up with a radical new copy solution based on your generic I want everyone to live an amazing life.
The work has to come from you. Just like it had to come from me.
You have to do the work. You have to do the work. You have to do the work.
I can help. I can show you tools and hold you accountable and offer encouragement (like whoa) and structure and support. I can answer your questions and give feedback and create a community of like-minded women for you to reach out to when times are hard. I can show you my own path, being open and vulnerable about the challenges I face and teach you how I get to the other side, in real time.
But I can’t do the work for you.
At the end of the day, when you’re facing a scary decision or the prospect of doing something that makes you so excitednervous, it’s just you and your email. It’s you against the inbox and I can’t come sit next to you to hit send.
And, honestly, I wouldn’t want to. It’s my job to teach you what’s possible, to show you what’s possible, to never ever ever let you forget what’s possible for yourself.
But I’m not here to save you.
No one is.
The only person who can do the hard work that it’s going to take to get you from where you are now to where you want to be is you.
If you aren’t willing to do the work, hiring a coach, or going to a retreat, or paying for another fucking e-course isn’t going to do any good.
Yes, they can offer structure and support, but at the end of the day, you’ve gotta be the one to hit send.
Are you ready to start saving yourself?
100 Rejection Letters starts October 15 – a whole year of you committing to doing the work. I’ve got your back. It’s going to be brilliant. Early bird registration ends in one week and the bonuses are going quickly.
PS. Did you know the Bronze level of the program is only $97? It’s a steal! (I also just updated it to have a payment plan option, making it super affordable to have me as your year-long virtual mentor.)
*photo by me; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching
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This week, it’s all about feeling the fear and doing it anyways! We talk about staying inspired, cultivating creative habits, what to do with fear, and how to approach the ugly phase that comes along with every creative endeavor. We also talk about the pros and cons of art school. I love hearing about Mati’s first foray into the publishing world (talk about brave, y’all!) and her secret life in South America.