Oh, the hustle. We hear it all the time – you have to work hard to win big, but make sure you have work-life balance, and don’t forget about self care, and la;ksdjf;oicuxfewr. And which messages are we supposed to take to heart? The ones that tell us to chill the eff out or the ones that tell us we have to go all in and work our tails off to become successful in this world?
Both. And neither.
This week on the podcast, I sat down with small business strategist and coach for creative entrepreneurs, Cyndie Spiegel, to talk about the hustle – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Cyndie at I met at ALT in January (and we’ll both be back there to speak next month!) and hit it off immediately. I adore her and knew that she had to be on the show.
We also talked about the leap and the net will appear adage, how to know it’s time to make a change, boundaries, and what stepping up your game really looks like for most creative entrepreneurs. If you’re interested in making a change in your life or have been feeling a pull towards something bigger for yourself, this episode is for you! It’s also for you if you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed in your business and are wondering when the next chapter is going to start.
Cyndie. You are such a treat and it was an absolute pleasure to have you on the show! I can’t wait to toast you in person next month!
They are something WE ALL deal with. Every single one of us. And yet, they make us feel so alone and isolated.
Well, I say not anymore! In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m flying solo and talking about how to step beyond fear into your Most Important Work – that work that keeps you up at night, that work you can’t stop thinking about, that work you know you were meant to do.
That work that you usually put off because there’s a voice in your head asking Who do you think you are?
Yep. That work. And that voice.
You DO have a choice of how to react to your fear, and you can make that choice as easy as possible for yourself.
PS. It’s time for the 3rd annual Multi-Passionate Must Haves sale and I’m thrilled that my program More Shenanigans Please is included among the 26 products by 28 expert contributors worth $1,730 – for only $97! This bundle was designed specifically for those of you who have a LOT of different interests, projects, and creative pursuits in your life and is an amazing value.
BUT it’s only available until Midnight PST tomorrow (5/14) so don’t delay!
I had a blast talking with Molly Gilbert of Dunk & Crumble for today’s episode of the podcast!
We talked about all of the #raiseyourhandsayyes moments that Molly’s had in her life that led her away from the life of a looks-good-on-paper consultant to culinary school to starting a blog, moving across the country, and writing my new favorite cookbook Sheet Pan Suppers.
We also talk about the value of ease and how things that are simple can still be valuable. I repeat: things that are simple can still be valuable. (I think I need to get this one tattooed on my forehead!) This episode is fuuuulll of life lessons. Chock full!
Molly, thank you so much! I can’t wait to hang out with you in my kitchen and cook for you!
Ah, how I love Jen Louden. I first met Jen a few years ago at WDS after my Teahouse studio-mate Stef had told me, “Jen Louden is there. You have to meet her and convince her to come teach at Teahouse.” So, me being me, I saw her talking to a mutual friend, walked up and introduced myself, “Hi. I’m Tiffany. I hear you’re awesome. I have a workshop space in Berkeley and we’d love for you to come teach there.”
Mysterious, I am not.
And, lo and behold, that #raiseyourhandsayyes moment led to Jen coming to teach at Teahouse. Huh, isn’t it amazing how sometimes you actually do get what you ask for? Right. It can be super simple if you let it.
This week, I got to talk to Jen all about getting vulnerable. Which is a hot topic these days and a word that gets tossed about all the time, so I wanted to dig into what vulnerability really means and how you can tap into your own. It’s all about getting started, and I love Jen’s take on it.
We also talk about what to do when your creative work feels hard and when to dig in your heels and keep going and when to let something go and move on. It’s a good one friends, I hope you enjoy it!
Jen, you are such a beautiful combination of honest, funny, and wise. Thank you for sharing your time with me!
How do you run a business that – at least from the outside – appears to be booming?
How do you keep it all together with 1-year-old twins?
How do you have the time to produce so much content – blog posts, podcast episodes, newsletters, daily post-its?
The answer: I say no a lot.
My current reply – ooh, I’d love to but I can’t until June – is on repeat these days. And June is slowly becoming July.
I say no to friends who want a skype catch up who I haven’t talked to in a very long time. I have to say no to collaborations and blog interviews and omg! great! opportunities! for the sake of my sanity. And for the sake of my Bigger Work.
But before I was able to start saying no, I had to sit down and figure out what my Bigger Work was – what do I want to be focusing on? What do I want to prioritize? How do I want to be spending the precious time I have?
Because every choice and decision I make for my business is time that I’m not spending with my family, one more walk that my dog doesn’t get taken on, one more pilates class that I don’t get to go to.
One more quiet afternoon spent with a book.
One more long lunch with a friend.
One more day spent knitting or painting or drawing or doing that creative project I’ve been thinking about starting up.
It’s all about choices. And I’ve chosen to prioritize very few things in my life and very few things in my business. Because that’s how priorities work.
I also have to make sure that my business is supporting my life. That I’m making enough money to justify the time spent away, the nights that Tim puts the girls to bed because I’m still at the computer editing the podcast that was supposed to be published by 5pm and the days off when he goes to the park solo because I have more coaching calls.
Going beyond fine
I have to make sure that it’s worth it because the business I’d built up pre-babies was fine, but, at the end of the day, wasn’t worth it. I was working too hard and making too little – which was enough when it was just me. But not anymore.
I need better than fine. Much better than fine.
I realized that if I wasn’t happy in my business, if I wasn’t earning enough to make a difference financially, I might as well go out and get a job.
And, for right now, that is not what I want. I want my business to work and to grow and to do well. I want it all to be worth it. But it’s up to me to make that happen.
So I keep shifting and pivoting and making small changes to get it to a place where it works. I’ve been investing in support and systems, figuring out what I can outsource so I have time to focus on what makes everything worth it – my writing, my speaking, my teaching, my coaching.
And I’ve let most of the other stuff go. It takes me a long time to respond to tweets. I post my daily instagram shots but don’t converse with people in the comments. I’m turning off my blog comments and, as of this fall, will be taking all of my group programs off facebook so I don’t have to be on that platform every day.
I only have a few blogs in my reader and have let go of trying to keep up with the lives of strangers.
I don’t spend time putting on makeup in the morning. I wear the same thing every day – v neck tee from Target, jeans, and a cardigan. My hair is always in a ponytail.
I spend Saturday and Sunday preparing food for the week so that I can eat well. But we eat the same things all the time. I don’t worry about trying out the new recipes or watching the shows that everyone else talks about. I don’t watch SNL or Breaking Bad.
I do what I can to keep my life as simple as possible, because running (and growing) a business with 1-year old twins is a lot. And I love it. I love all of it, because I’ve created that for myself.
Start Stop Continue
Each month, I take stock of what’s working and what’s not, figure out what needs to shift and what I can let go of, so it feels like I’m constantly blowing things up, like I’m always changing and shifting and stretching – but it’s actually an evolution. I am evolving.
And without evolution, things shrivel. Without evolution, they become stagnant. Without evolution, species fade. And that’s not what I want for my business or my life.
And it’s not what I want for yours either.
So think about what’s working and what isn’t in your own life. Where do you need to step up your game? What do you need to let go of? What is it time to change?
What’s the whisper in the back of your head telling you? Because you hear it, but you’ve probably been ignoring it for some time now, convincing yourself over and over that what you’re doing is good enough.
And good enough is a myth. Good enough is settling. Good enough is complacency. I don’t want good enough for you.
If you have a business, good enough is bullshit. It’s time to thrive. (tweet it)
Ahh! I was so excited to interview Janelle Hanchett for this week’s podcast episode. So excited.
When I found out I was pregnant with twins, I immediately dove into Google (don’t do that!) and found myself going down the Rabbit Hole of Crazy that is websites about pregnancy and expecting and twins and all of that. There is so much information that made me feel nervous and anxious and terrible.
And then, one day, I stumbled upon Janelle’s blog, Renegade Mothering, and felt like I had found my way home. Finally! Someone who spoke my language when it came to pregnancy and kids and parenting and family. I then found myself going down the Rabbit Hole of Awesome that is Janelle’s blog and her humor, perspective, and honesty.
This week, Janelle and I talk about SO MUCH including facing your discomfort and doing your work in spite of your fear, what Janelle learned from her alcoholism about facing your failure, what to do with the haters in the comment section, and how to tell your truth through writing. I also love Janelle’s take on not letting fear be her editor. Brilliance.
Janelle, thank you, thank you, thank you, for being so good at what you do and such an inspiration to me in my quest to keep telling the truth with my writing.!
Step away from the screen on your wrist (!), and the one on the table at the cafe, and the one built-into your car.
STEP AWAY FROM THE SCREEN.
Oh, right. But no one on the internet is telling you to do that because they get paid by you staying on the internet.
The more you click and buy and share, the more their (potential) revenue goes up. So they continue to write more articles with good advice and show you how good things will be if only you follow these 5 easy steps to a minimalistic living room and tell you more and more about the things you need to know.
And, please, would you mind clicking and buying and sharing while you’re there?
So you click – and one click leads you to an entirely new world of possibility: 5 things to do with your kids at Disney, how to save $300 a month the easy way, what you don’t know about your food that could be killing you.
And you keep going until you forget that your living room is fine, that you don’t want to take your kids to Disney, that you already have a savings account.
Click. Buy. Share.
Click. Buy. Share.
Click. Buy. Share.
And I am no different – I run my business on the internet. If you share this post and then someone else clicks it, I stand to make more money the next time I am selling a program.
That doesn’t make me a bad person, but it also doesn’t mean that you have to listen to everything I do. It doesn’t mean that you have to hang on every word, just as you don’t have to hang on every word of anyone online.
Because if you step away from the screen, the internet will still be there when you come back.
These words aren’t going anywhere. That deal will be found again. Your friends will still find that post you are dying to share helpful tomorrow.
And if you spend all of your day clicking, buying, and sharing, you will lose today. Tomorrow will be all you have. And does that sound like the makings of a happy life? Nope.
So, step away from the screen.
Go outside, wander, read a book, watch birds on a wire and figure out how they decide who stands where. See if your reflection looks the same in every window on your street. Try to find someone to car dance with at a red light.
Smile at strangers. Wink at babies. Make an adventure for yourself.
And, then, at the end of the day, before you get back on the screen to see omg-what-you-missed (spoiler alert: not as much as you thought), check in with yourself and see where your happiness is. Do you feel better? More alive? More connected?
And then remember this: you get to step away from the screen whenever you want. Even though facebook will try to chase you with phone notifications. Even though apple tells you that you need to wear a phone on your wrist. Even though everyone else wants you to keep clicking and buying and sharing.
I was so excited to have Elise Blaha Cripe back on the show! This week, we talked all about goal-setting and getting things done. Elise is a MASTER at setting (and sharing and reaching!) her goals and I was excited to chat with her about the practical steps of how she gets everything done and how her business (and goals!) has evolved over time.
We also got to talk about two of Elise’s bigger projects: Make29 and her Get to Work Book (amazing!) and how these projects have played into each other and what she’s learned from her experiences with both. And, a discussion about goals and doing the work wouldn’t be complete without diving into fear and comparisons. We covered a lot in this conversation!
Elise, thank you SO MUCH! It’s always a treat to be able to share time with you!
I was thrilled to talk with Monica McCarthy this week for the podcast! I’ve known Monica for a few years and have been following her career as she’s gone through so many entrepreneurial iterations and is currently the Experience Impressario for Holstee. (If you’re curious about what an Experience Impressario does, we’ll cover that!)
On this episode, Monica and I talked all about what she learned about risk from being an actress, how she was able to let go of the solopreneur dream and get a day job (gasp!) and how she’s followed her crazyfaith to her own raise your hand say yes moments. It’s a good one!
Monica, it was so wonderful having you on the show! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
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