why New Year’s resolutions are BS

When I was unhappy in my day job, I was a SHOPPER. Like big time. I justified it by saying “oh, I love shoes!” and “I have to have appropriate clothes for work” but, really, I was bored. And tired. And buying new things gave me a rush that not much else in my life did. 

These days: yes, I do still love shoes. And enjoy looking at pretty clothes and thinking about outfits. But I spend so much less money on stuff just for the sake of getting stuff. 

I’ve learned that the spending doesn’t fill me up. Just like the eating doesn’t fill me up. And the drinking doesn’t fill me up. 

This time of year, we focus on our new year’s resolutions – what are the things we are unhappy about in our lives? What are the areas we should change?

Most often, these revolve around consumption. Spending less. Eating less. Drinking less. But the New Year’s resolutions keep not working. 

Because instead of focusing on the root cause of the action, we are focused on the behavior. 

Want to spend less money on random stuff? Find a hobby that truly makes your heart sing and spend your time doing that. 

Want to eat less crappy food? Start a gratitude practice around loving your body no matter what size and shape it is. 

Want to get organized and focused and finally have your shit together this year? Stop saying yes to things that don’t light you up so that you have time to focus on what does. 

New Year’s resolutions don’t work. Because New Year’s resolutions make you wrong. Because New Year’s resolutions say that you’ve gotten in trouble and need to be punished.  

Because New Year’s resolutions say that you don’t know what’s best for you. That you can’t take care of yourself. That you can’t be trusted. 

And that’s all bullshit. You aren’t wrong. You aren’t in trouble. You do know what’s best for yourself, and you can be trusted to make good decisions. 

Are you ready to believe it?

PS. Head’s up: the calendar and shenanigans giveaway ends tomorrow morning at 9am PST – leave a comment with your word for 2014 for your chance to enter! 

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

2 thoughts on “why New Year’s resolutions are BS

  1. Amen! I loved this. This year I am just going to focus on being focused and working on being sympathetic. These are reachable goals right?! They aren't so much resolutions as they are creating a driving force to better my life. are ya with me?!

    xo Laur
    laurynlasko.blogspot.com

  2. I am numb to the New Year. I am uninspired to find resolution or theme or inspirational word. I wrote my life/year goals out while the baby napped in the car. Treading water here. Trying to not forget that babies require more than we can give even before we carve out something for ourselves. I may need to tweak my expectations for how much, how fast, and when my personal achievements happen. Make friends with the tortoise.
    Good Luck and Happy New Year.
    Love,
    Shalagh

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