friday’s confession: I’m shifting my paradigm

friday's confession: I'm shifting my paradigm

For the longest time, I’ve felt a pull. I’ve felt the need to simplify my business and how I talk about what I do. Am I a life coach or a business coach?

And for a long time, I’ve known the answer (business coach) but I haven’t been fully ready to step into that title and take ownership of it. Because I’ve loved my life coaching clients so much, I haven’t been ready to let go of the possibility to work with more people just like them.

Concurrently, I was never 100% sure about the glitterbomb title. I ran an in-person crafting workshop back in my Teahouse days called Glitterbomb and realized post-cleanup (ugh! Cleaning glitter is the worst y’all) that I could work with virtual glitter. And my Glitterbomb my Life and Glitterbomb my Biz group coaching was born.

But it never felt quite right. I loved the work that I was doing with the participants, but there was something too flippant about glitter. Too on-the-surface-sparkly without the depth that I knew people needed. Yet, I couldn’t come up with anything better, so the glitter stayed. The Life and Business Coach title stayed. And I thought and pondered and what if’d. 

…and then I had twins. And cut down to (attempting to) only work 3 days a week. And committed to doing everything I could to go all in on my business and get 100 Rejection Letters in a year (in case anyone is counting, I currently have 4).

I no longer had the luxury to do it all. I no longer had the time to be the everything coach to highly-creative women. I couldn’t ponder and think and what if anymore – there was no time for that.

I had to make a shift. It was time. I was ready. 

And while this shift feels big to me, I think I’m moving exactly where I need to be. And it’s not necessarily a move at all, but more of a simplifying and deepening move – a move saying this is where shine (which is ironically exactly what I’ve been helping my clients do!).

I want to shift my focus to the things that I know I’m good at and the things that make me feel most alive.

Things like:

  • helping creative women start a business
  • moving someone into clear action
  • facilitating brand definition before you hire the designer to make your logo or fancy website
  • streamlining your business and redefining your offerings to make the business you have into the business you love. 

At the end of the day, I’m still helping highly-creative women shine. But I’m talking about things differently and zooming in on the work that I am best at.

And I’m ready to see where this goes.

The logistics:

For some of you, not much will change. I’m still going to be blogging about the same things, and my podcast will continue well into 2015 (and beyond, I hope!).

I am currently re-tooling my offerings and working on a very exciting program for Spring 2015 with a couple of collaborators. I’m hoping to get the new offerings posted by the end of the year (stay tuned if you’re looking for someone to get Bossypants on you or you need help with brand clarity and definition – I’m about to be your girl!).

Meanwhile, if you’re interested in working with me 1-on-1 long term, I have 1 Shine Sessions spot left starting in January. After that, the only way to work with me that intensely will be through 100 Rejection Letters (with registration opening September 2015).

And what this all means to you: 

While the circumstances of our lives might appear to be very different, deep down, we are all the same. We all have the same fears and doubts. We all have nudges from the Universe that we ignore or put off or overthink. 

I’m sharing my process here with you in hope that you might take this as your sign that it’s time to make a change you’ve been thinking about for too long.

It’s time to take that whisper and own it, to declare yourself as something, to take a stand, to give the mightiest of shits.

What if 2015 was the year that you finally took action? That you moved from thinking about into doing? That you lived the life you wanted for yourself instead of watching other people live theirs?

Because you’re ready. And we’re waiting. And we’re all in this together.

**photo and graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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Raise your hand. Say yes. with Susannah Conway

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Oh, Susannah! This week, I was thrilled to be able to interview Susannah Conway.

I have been a fan of Susannah’s photos and writing for years and have been so excited to share this episode with you. Susannah is a pro at keeping it real and we were able to cover so many topics, including: procrastination, owning your introverted-ness, trusting (and developing) your voice as an artist, learning and then learning some more, and using your art for healing.

It’s a good one, you guys (I know! I say that every week!) and I hope you enjoy it!

Susannah, thank you so much. You are a treasure! 

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Show Notes: 

Connect with Susannah: Website | Twitter | Instagram

Susannah’s Books: This I Know: Notes on Unraveling the Heart | Instant Love: How to Make Magic and Memories with Polaroids

Parkinson’s Law

Jennifer Lee

The Weepies, Unraveling

Susannah’s Unraveling e-course

Sliding Doors

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford

Unraveling the Year Ahead workbook (free download)

Susannah’s free Find your Word e-mail course

Susannah’s Journal your Life e-course

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the deal with Serial…and my life.

the deal with Serial...and my life. via Tiffany Han

Like many of us, I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of Serial.

But this post isn’t about who I think did it or who I don’t think did it. It’s about what by my ability (or inability) to listen to a 45-minute podcast says about my life.

First, I can’t listen to it while I’m watching the girls (or driving them anywhere) because there are random curse words. And we’re trying to watch that habit before it’s too late.

Second, I can’t listen while I’m working because I end up missing everything and having to re-listen. And that also means that I’m not focusing on my work.

Third, I can’t listen while I’m making dinner with Tim because he has stubborn ethical objections to the sensationalizing of a tragedy (which could be discussed in another blog post. Or not.) and makes a ruckus out of it. So, it’s just easier not to.

I therefore find myself offering to go to the grocery store just to have 14 minutes (round-trip) of solo silence in which to listen to a small snippet of the latest episode.

The episodes are released early Thursday mornings. At the writing of this post, it is more than 48 hours post-release of Episode 11, and I’ve been able to listen to 24 minutes.

Because that is how I live my life right now. There is always something tugging at my arm – a baby, a husband, a dog, a client, a collaborator, a dishwasher. Or at least that’s how it can feel at times. Like I’m always being pulled and tugged and needed. There is always something that needs tending to. 

Except: this is the life that I have created for myself. And the tugging doesn’t have to be a burden when it really is a blessing. 

This is a life where I am lucky and grateful to have such happy, engaged babies and such a loving, funny, stubborn husband. I’m lucky to have a sweet dog who is healthy and energetic. And clients who are engaged and curious and ready for more; collaborators who I’m excited about working with, who generate ideas that cannot be ignored. I’m even lucky to have a magic box that I can put all of my dirty dishes into, and after a few hours, they are clean.

I could begrudge all of this. I could bemoan how long it takes me to listen to the latest episode, feel left out of the global conversations about the show that are happening on Facebook, wonder why can’t I play too? when I have to scroll past posts so as to avoid spoilers.

Or I could say, Hey. It’s fine. It’s just a podcast. That isn’t going anywhere. What’s the hurry?

Our lives are so wholly convenient right now. We have groceries delivered to our front porch. I get a shipment of diapers every three weeks so that we never run out. And yet, we are more frazzled than ever.

Because of things like this. Of trying to keep up. Of wanting to be picked and sit with the cool kids at the lunch table and participate.

But are we forsaking participation in our actual lives for a spot at the cool kids’ table in the cafeteria?

And do the cool kids even have anything to offer? Besides gossip and a boost to our egos?

Is there any reframing you need to do in your life starting now?

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

PS. Heads up! I’m having a special buy 3, get 1 free calendar sale on my 2015 Sparkle & Shine calendar. The last day to order for pre-Christmas shipping is December 17.

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friday’s confession: I thought I was lazy.

Friday's confession: I thought I was lazy. via Tiffany Han

Would you believe that I used to call myself lazy?

I thought about this recently and shook my head. I have routinely held multiple jobs. I do things. I love projects. And I have an incessant level of enthusiasm for life. I! Go! Nonstop! All! The! Time!

I realized shortly after writing this post that, while I might feel like I’m struggling to get it all done, from the outside, I am kicking ass. I am keeping my business going, launching big things AND taking good care of my family. I am figuring out this working mom thing. It may not look the way the magazines show it, but what I am doing works for me and my family.

The level of energy at which I operate requires, well, energy. And it requires rest. And rejuvenation. And I used to think that my propensity for spending a day on the couch watching Pretty Little Liars made me lazy.

I used to think that being a clutterbug and surrounded by piles and not liking to put away my laundry made me lazy.

I used to think that having nights where I had popcorn and wine for dinner in front of the tv made me lazy.

I realize now that these things made me human. They made me a person who does a lot with her time and her days and gets shit done but needs downtime to stay sane.

They make me normal.

The need to laze around does not a lazy person make.

And yet we put so much pressure on ourselves. We all want to do all the things! and make everything happen! and get it all done! right now!

To the point that we run ourselves into the ground.

It’s not lazy, it’s restorative.

It’s not lazy, it’s relaxing.

It’s not lazy, it’s recuperating.

How do you need to let up on yourself? Are you constantly calling yourself lazy, or an idiot, or something worse?

What if, instead of looking with disdain on what you do to take care of yourself, you give yourself space for downtime?

What if you commit to one pajama day a month where you make it your goal to not get dressed or leave the house? (Pajama days are my favorite btw!)

What if you try to read one non-business, non-self help book a week, the trashier, the better?

What if you turn your phone off every night at 6:00 pm and let yourself read magazines and watch tv instead of trying to be productive?

What if you focused on letting your brain rest instead of trying to multi-task and check your email and instagram and twitter all the time?

What if you recognized what you need and you let yourself have it? No matter what?

And what if this recognition and surrender was actually the key to being more productive and more creative and more efficient?

Are you willing to give it a shot?

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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Raise your Hand. Say Yes. with Tanya Geisler

Raise your Hand Say Yes with Tanya Geisler

Is it possible for me to be any more in love with Tanya Geisler than I am? No. No it is not.

I was thrilled to be able to interview Tanya for this week’s show. In the interview, we talk about Tanya’s work with the think that I think is the biggest threat to creative women: the Imposter Complex. And the conversation is so good! This stuff is crazy important and I am so grateful to Tanya for speaking about it in such a true and encouraging way.

Tanya, you are a light and a gift to this world. Thank you. 

Listen now:

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Show Notes:

Connect with Tanya: Website | Twitter | FacebookInstagram

Tanya’s TedX talk: Owning our Authority

Step into your Starring Role

Imposter Syndrome on Wikipedia

Rob Brezsny’s Free Will Astrology

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thought of the day.

Keep it Simple Sweetheart.

Oh, you! I know that you are so good at overthinking. And making yourself do all! the! things! and needing everything to be so perfect.

How about if, for the rest of this month, you vow to keep things as simple as possible?

What might change for you then?

What if you could – gasp! - navigate the holidays with ease and joy and comfort?

{BIG right?}

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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friday’s confession: I want you to give a shit.

friday's confession: I want you to give a shit. via Tiffany Han

This is what I want for you: I want you to banish “I don’t care” from your vocabulary. I want you to give a shit.

I want you to give the mightiest of shits.

I want you to care so much that you sing even though your voice cracks.

That you hit send even though your hands shake.

That you stand up and speak out and let yourself be heard even if you opinion is an unpopular one. Even if there’s no one else on your side.

Even if there is only one or two or three people in the audience.

I want you to find that thing that you care about so much that nothing can stop you.

That you become relentless in your pursuit of excellence.

That, while you might adjust your course along the way, you never get off the track, resting when you need to, but you never step off. You never throw in the towel. You never give up on what you can create for yourself. For your life. For the world.

I want you to give a shit because those things that fire you up are bigger than you, bigger than us. They’re meant for the world.

People need you. They need your gifts. They need your voice. And your perspective. And all of the things you have to offer.

And sometimes those closest to us or those we’ve chosen to spend our time with can’t see this. They can’t see our gifts, they don’t know how much the world needs us. Or maybe they’re threatened by what we have to offer and so we make ourselves small so as not to outshine them.


I want you to give such a shit that you let go of those relationships that aren’t serving you to find the ones that will. That you say no more to quieting yourself so that others who choose to stay small can also stay comfortable.

It doesn’t always feel easy. Or polite. Or like the thing that’s going to get you an A+ from the teacher. But I want you do to it anyway.

Because the world needs you. Because we are all waiting, with bated breath, to see what happens when you finally let yourself shine.

**graphics by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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Raise your hand. Say yes. with Tracy Benjamin of Shutterbean

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This week on Raise your Hand Say Yes, I was super excited to get to interview Tracy Benjamin of Shutterbean! (In case y’all aren’t familiar with Tracy, she’s my go-to for recipes. My current favorite is her olive oil banana bread. OMG.)

As always, we talk about so much in this episode, but spend a lot of time discussing authentic and staying true to your voice. We also talk about the power of staying positive and what happens behind the scenes that people have no idea about.

Thank you, Tracy! You’re the best! (And yes, please come visit soon!)

Listen now:

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Show Notes:

Connect with Tracy: Website | Twitter | Instagram

Tracy’s podcast with Joy the Baker

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moving to Plan B

Moving to Plan B, via Tiffany Han

I am a commitment person. Often to my detriment.

When I make plans with you, I will move heaven and earth to make sure they happen.

When I am needing to be somewhere, I will drive like a crazy person to make sure I’m not late.

When I say I’m going to do something, I do it.

While this can be a great thing about me, the pendulum often swings the other way and I end up panicked and stressed out trying to meet all of my commitments. I’m so concerned about letting someone down that I don’t recognize when I need to step back and make an adjustment.

Tim always asks me what my Plan B is. I get frustrated that I need a Plan B.

As we move into 2015, I’m planning. And thinking. And making changes.

I’m looking at what I am ready to let go of (more on that soon) to make room for new things. Good things. Things that are what I really want for my business (and life) instead of just good ideas.

And it’s scary. The outcome in unknown. I might disappoint some people. I might surprise some people. It may not be what everyone wants to hear. In fact, I know it won’t be what everyone wants to hear, because, at the end of the day, I’ll never make everyone happy. 

It is not in my power to be everything to everyone. It is not in my power to give everyone else what they need if I’m also not being filled up in the process. That isn’t working for me anymore. 

So, on to Plan B. Which is slowly becoming Plan A. And the exciting thing: soon there will be a new Plan B. One that I can’t even imagine.

What if Plan B is just the other way things could go?

What if it doesn’t mean that Plan A is a failure?

What if it’s just me being curious? What if I figure out all the different ways something could happen and take my pick from there, like drawing balls at a bingo game?

As creative people, we are good at the imagining part. We’re good at drawing a picture in our heads of what we want. We’re good at pinning all of our hopes on a specific outcome.

And, really, that outcome hardly ever comes the way we think it will. The reality of that outcome never looks the way we think it should.

So how would you be served by curiosity instead?

PS. Today is the last day for 20% off 2015 calendars. Use the code GOBBLEGOBBLE at checkout for your discount!

**graphics by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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friday’s confession: I’m having a sale!


Happy Friday-after-Thanksgiving to my American friends!

To my non-American friends, Happy last-friday-in-November!

Heads up: Calendars are on sale through Monday, 12/1, so hop on it for 20% off. 2015 is going to be magic. Make sure you’re ready.


And, just in case you’re on the fence, here’s some praise for last year’s model.

“Best. Calendar. Ever.” Enough said.

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