Raise Your Hand Say Yes Book Club: The Girl on the Train

On Episode 44 of Raise Your Hand Say Yes, Tiffany Han and Erin Cassidy discuss Paula Hawkins's thriller, The Girl on the Train.

Did you read The Girl on the TrainIf you did, Erin and I are ready to discuss ALL THE THINGS with you on this week’s episode of Raise Your Hand Say Yes! SPOILER ALERT: We don’t hold back, so if you’re currently reading this or are looking forward to reading it (or seeing the movie), don’t listen to this episode until you know the ending. Consider yourself warned.

But, spoilers aside, if you neeeeeeed to talk this out with someone, listen to Erin and I chat about the book and join us next week on Wednesday, July 8 at 5pm PST/8pm EST to discuss all the ups and downs. We want to hear from you! We’ll be gathering on spreecast. RSVP here to get all the deets!

We’re also stoked about our next book club selection, Essentialism by Greg McKeown. We’ll be discussing this book on the August 25 episode.

Erin, thanks for being the best book club co-host evah! 

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when you’re on the edge

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What do you do when you’re on the edge? When you feel like something is coming, some change is about to roll in – how do you ride it? Where do you start?

Why is it that, so often, being on the edge of something feels like you’ve hit a wall? It’s like you don’t know where you are until you look up and realize the wall you thought you ran up against is actually a beautiful cliff. A cliff that requires you to take some sort of action, to do something, to make a move. 

And that making a move – that’s the hardest part. That’s the part where we say,hmmm…but what if…? 

What if I take one false step and stumble to my death?

What if I leap and then realize halfway down that I have nowhere to land?

What if I think that I’ve got this but that I’m the wrongest of wrongs, that I should have actually turned back away from my edge, that the edge is the worst place to be?

That’s the thing about edges – they’re scary. And they’re beautiful at the same time. They’re full of possibility and success and failure and heartache. They have the potential for everything, but without action are just a pretty place to stand. 

{And I think we’re all looking for more than just a pretty place to stand.}

Most of the time, procrastination comes on HARD when we hit our edge. Because it’s scary, because it’s do or die time, because we have to go all in on ourselves and take that big step and see what happens when we start to do all those things we’ve always said we want to do. 

The edge seems glamorous when we see it from afar. When it’s just a dreamy place where we want to spend our time, when we see other people finding theirs and taking that leap (which is actually only a step). It seems like the most beautiful place in the world. 

But it isn’t. It’s terrifying. And ugly. Craggly rocks and sharp cliffs. Pebbles that slip out from under your feet as you walk, falling down into the crevasse. The edge is one of the most vulnerable places in the world to be. 

And when you find yourself up against yours, it’s often the loneliest place you’ve ever seen. 

Because we all have our own edge. Because my edge looks different from yours and hers and his. 

So what do you do? What happens next when the human tendency is to take this edge and dive into procrastination, to seek out some form of safety?

Instead of seeking safety in the arms of social media or someone else’s creativity, get to know your edge. Give yourself the grace and the time to get comfortable with the terrain, feel it under your feet, see what is required for you to stand there, to stand up, to be comfortable with the uneven contours of the ground. 

You have to give it time. But it’s a different kind of time than we’re used to – this isn’t the time of moving things you don’t really want to do from one to do list to another, nor the time to dive into facebook to feel even lonelier and worse about your life than you did before. 

This is the time for the quiet, to shut it all down, to walk away and walk around. To sit. To breathe. To think. {An aside: it’s been about a month since my last email. This is why.}

This is the time to get to know your edge. To get comfortable there. To realize that this edge is a place where you are playing, that you are doing it, that you have arrived. 

And this is the time to figure out which next step you are going to take, even though it’s vulnerable and terrifying and lonely and amazing. Even though it’s all of that. 

We’re constantly being told that the secret to being a successful creative entrepreneur is to build up your audience by consistently creating valuable content. 

And so we work tirelessly to churn out the content, making sure that it’s useful and valuable to our audience. 

But what happens when we hit our edge and cannot maintain the content churning and the edge walking? Do we just keep churning and churning and churning, until we one day realize that going through the motions of the surefire way to grow and maintain your creative business! has taken you so far away from your edge that you aren’t even sure where to find it?

Because nobody wants that. 

So here’s your permission slip: You can do whatever you need to so that you feel good about your creative work. 

Take a break from it all if you aren’t sure what to say. 

Stop producing content if your content production schedule feels like a slow crawl to death. 

Get quiet so you can figure out what you really want to say. 

Let your procrastination tell you something – listen to it instead of using your energy to fight against it. 

Find and trust and get to know your end game – how is your creative work serving you? What are you building toward? What do you want your life to look like 5 years from now?

Doing all of this will get you even closer to your edge and help you be comfortable there when you find it. 

And this is required if you want to do what’s next – if you want to take that leap, or stride, or teeny-tiny baby step to make your move. 

We’re ready for you. The world is waiting. Now it’s your turn to do what you must to make it happen. 

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Erin Cassidy!

erin_podcast_comparisonAh, comparison. It’s the monster that we’re all trying to hide from on the internet – the Land of Comparison.

I was THRILLED to have my dear friend (and in-house graphic designer) Erin Cassidy back on the show this week to talk about balancing life and business amidst keeping up with ALL THE THINGS via social media.

Erin, thank you! You are the best! 

PS. We are thrilled to announce our new book club selection The Girl on the Train. Our discussion about the book will air on June 30!

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Cyndie Spiegel (hustle baby!)

Cyndie Spiegel talks with Tiffany Han all about the good and bad side of the creative entrepreneur hustle on the Raise Your Hand Say Yes podcast.

Oh, the hustle. We hear it all the time – you have to work hard to win big, but make sure you have work-life balance, and don’t forget about self care, and la;ksdjf;oicuxfewr. And which messages are we supposed to take to heart? The ones that tell us to chill the eff out or the ones that tell us we have to go all in and work our tails off to become successful in this world?

Both. And neither.

This week on the podcast, I sat down with small business strategist and coach for creative entrepreneurs, Cyndie Spiegel, to talk about the hustle – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Cyndie at I met at ALT in January (and we’ll both be back there to speak next month!) and hit it off immediately. I adore her and knew that she had to be on the show.

We also talked about the leap and the net will appear adage, how to know it’s time to make a change, boundaries, and what stepping up your game really looks like for most creative entrepreneurs. If you’re interested in making a change in your life or have been feeling a pull towards something bigger for yourself, this episode is for you! It’s also for you if you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed in your business and are wondering when the next chapter is going to start.

Cyndie. You are such a treat and it was an absolute pleasure to have you on the show! I can’t wait to toast you in person next month! 

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Connect with Cyndie: Website | Instagram

The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

the skimm

What Freedom Is (and Isn’t) – my blog post where I ask if you really want a business or just need a vacation

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Handling Fear and your Inner-Critic

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Fear. Doubt. Inner critics.

They are something WE ALL deal with. Every single one of us. And yet, they make us feel so alone and isolated.

Well, I say not anymore! In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m flying solo and talking about how to step beyond fear into your Most Important Work – that work that keeps you up at night, that work you can’t stop thinking about, that work you know you were meant to do.

That work that you usually put off because there’s a voice in your head asking Who do you think you are? 

Yep. That work. And that voice.

You DO have a choice of how to react to your fear, and you can make that choice as easy as possible for yourself.

PS. It’s time for the 3rd annual Multi-Passionate Must Haves sale and I’m thrilled that my program More Shenanigans Please is included among the 26 products by 28 expert contributors worth $1,730 – for only $97! This bundle was designed specifically for those of you who have a LOT of different interests, projects, and creative pursuits in your life and is an amazing value.

BUT it’s only available until Midnight PST tomorrow (5/14) so don’t delay!

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Raise your hand. Say yes. with Molly Gilbert

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I had a blast talking with Molly Gilbert of Dunk & Crumble for today’s episode of the podcast!

We talked about all of the #raiseyourhandsayyes moments that Molly’s had in her life that led her away from the life of a looks-good-on-paper consultant to culinary school to starting a blog, moving across the country, and writing my new favorite cookbook Sheet Pan Suppers.

We also talk about the value of ease and how things that are simple can still be valuable. I repeat: things that are simple can still be valuable. (I think I need to get this one tattooed on my forehead!) This episode is fuuuulll of life lessons. Chock full!

Molly, thank you so much! I can’t wait to hang out with you in my kitchen and cook for you! 

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Connect with Molly: Blog | Instagram | Twitter

Molly’s cookbook Sheet Pan Suppers

Liddabit Sweets

Molly’s Podcast (find it on itunes here)

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thought of the day.

Let "someday" be today. via Tiffany Han

There’s something magical that happens when you just start.

When you let go of tomorrow or someday or when I’m ready. 

There’s something magical when you declare what you want for yourself. Today. And get moving.

Try it. Take action today. Even if it’s only doing something for 5 minutes. Start.

And see how you feel after. See if it’s easier to start again tomorrow and the next day and the next.

Keep going. Tell the Universe that you mean business. That your dreams are legit. That you are going to make this happen.

You’ve got this. You’re ready. Today.

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Jen Louden

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Ah, how I love Jen Louden. I first met Jen a few years ago at WDS after my Teahouse studio-mate Stef had told me, “Jen Louden is there. You have to meet her and convince her to come teach at Teahouse.” So, me being me, I saw her talking to a mutual friend, walked up and introduced myself, “Hi. I’m Tiffany. I hear you’re awesome. I have a workshop space in Berkeley and we’d love for you to come teach there.”

Mysterious, I am not.

And, lo and behold, that #raiseyourhandsayyes moment led to Jen coming to teach at Teahouse. Huh, isn’t it amazing how sometimes you actually do get what you ask for? Right. It can be super simple if you let it.

This week, I got to talk to Jen all about getting vulnerable. Which is a hot topic these days and a word that gets tossed about all the time, so I wanted to dig into what vulnerability really means and how you can tap into your own. It’s all about getting started, and I love Jen’s take on it.

We also talk about what to do when your creative work feels hard and when to dig in your heels and keep going and when to let something go and move on. It’s a good one friends, I hope you enjoy it!

Jen, you are such a beautiful combination of honest, funny, and wise. Thank you for sharing your time with me! 

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Connect with Jen: Website | Blog | Twitter

Jen’s post about being stubborn

The Oasis

Book: The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up (omg this book changed my life!)

Rilke’s Book of Hours

350.org

Carol Dweck’s book on Mindset

Jen’s new book: Year of Daily Joy

Teach Now

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how I get it all done.

How I get it all done via Tiffany Han

People ask me all the time “How do you do it?”

How do you run a business that – at least from the outside – appears to be booming?

How do you keep it all together with 1-year-old twins?

How do you have the time to produce so much content – blog posts, podcast episodes, newsletters, daily post-its?

The answer: I say no a lot.

My current reply – ooh, I’d love to but I can’t until June –  is on repeat these days. And June is slowly becoming July.

I say no to friends who want a skype catch up who I haven’t talked to in a very long time. I have to say no to collaborations and blog interviews and omg! great! opportunities! for the sake of my sanity. And for the sake of my Bigger Work.

But before I was able to start saying no, I had to sit down and figure out what my Bigger Work was – what do I want to be focusing on? What do I want to prioritize? How do I want to be spending the precious time I have?

Because every choice and decision I make for my business is time that I’m not spending with my family, one more walk that my dog doesn’t get taken on, one more pilates class that I don’t get to go to.

One more quiet afternoon spent with a book.

One more long lunch with a friend.

One more day spent knitting or painting or drawing or doing that creative project I’ve been thinking about starting up.

It’s all about choices. And I’ve chosen to prioritize very few things in my life and very few things in my business. Because that’s how priorities work.

I also have to make sure that my business is supporting my life. That I’m making enough money to justify the time spent away, the nights that Tim puts the girls to bed because I’m still at the computer editing the podcast that was supposed to be published by 5pm and the days off when he goes to the park solo because I have more coaching calls.

Going beyond fine

I have to make sure that it’s worth it because the business I’d built up pre-babies was fine, but, at the end of the day, wasn’t worth it. I was working too hard and making too little – which was enough when it was just me. But not anymore. 

I need better than fine. Much better than fine.

I realized that if I wasn’t happy in my business, if I wasn’t earning enough to make a difference financially, I might as well go out and get a job.

And, for right now, that is not what I want. I want my business to work and to grow and to do well. I want it all to be worth it. But it’s up to me to make that happen.

So I keep shifting and pivoting and making small changes to get it to a place where it works. I’ve been investing in support and systems, figuring out what I can outsource so I have time to focus on what makes everything worth it – my writing, my speaking, my teaching, my coaching.

And I’ve let most of the other stuff go. It takes me a long time to respond to tweets. I post my daily instagram shots but don’t converse with people in the comments. I’m turning off my blog comments and, as of this fall, will be taking all of my group programs off facebook so I don’t have to be on that platform every day.

I only have a few blogs in my reader and have let go of trying to keep up with the lives of strangers.

I don’t spend time putting on makeup in the morning. I wear the same thing every day –  v neck tee from Target, jeans, and a cardigan. My hair is always in a ponytail.

I spend Saturday and Sunday preparing food for the week so that I can eat well. But we eat the same things all the time. I don’t worry about trying out the new recipes or watching the shows that everyone else talks about. I don’t watch SNL or Breaking Bad.

I do what I can to keep my life as simple as possible, because running (and growing) a business with 1-year old twins is a lot. And I love it. I love all of it, because I’ve created that for myself.

Start Stop Continue

Each month, I take stock of what’s working and what’s not, figure out what needs to shift and what I can let go of, so it feels like I’m constantly blowing things up, like I’m always changing and shifting and stretching – but it’s actually an evolution. I am evolving.

And without evolution, things shrivel. Without evolution, they become stagnant. Without evolution, species fade. And that’s not what I want for my business or my life.

And it’s not what I want for yours either.

So think about what’s working and what isn’t in your own life. Where do you need to step up your game? What do you need to let go of? What is it time to change?

What’s the whisper in the back of your head telling you? Because you hear it, but you’ve probably been ignoring it for some time now, convincing yourself over and over that what you’re doing is good enough.

And good enough is a myth. Good enough is settling. Good enough is complacency. I don’t want good enough for you.

If you have a business, good enough is bullshit. It’s time to thrive. (tweet it)

Because if you aren’t thriving, what’s the point?

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Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Janelle Hanchett

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Ahh! I was so excited to interview Janelle Hanchett for this week’s podcast episode. So excited.

When I found out I was pregnant with twins, I immediately dove into Google (don’t do that!) and found myself going down the Rabbit Hole of Crazy that is websites about pregnancy and expecting and twins and all of that. There is so much information that made me feel nervous and anxious and terrible.

And then, one day, I stumbled upon Janelle’s blog, Renegade Mothering, and felt like I had found my way home. Finally! Someone who spoke my language when it came to pregnancy and kids and parenting and family. I then found myself going down the Rabbit Hole of Awesome that is Janelle’s blog and her humor, perspective, and honesty.

This week, Janelle and I talk about SO MUCH including facing your discomfort and doing your work in spite of your fear, what Janelle learned from her alcoholism about facing your failure, what to do with the haters in the comment section, and how to tell your truth through writing. I also love Janelle’s take on not letting fear be her editor. Brilliance.

Janelle, thank you, thank you, thank you, for being so good at what you do and such an inspiration to me in my quest to keep telling the truth with my writing.! 

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Connect with Janelle: Renegade Mothering Blog | Twitter | Instagram

Janelle’s post: To the new mom traumatized by BabyCenter

Janelle’s post: I became a mother and died to live. 

Janelle’s Write Anyway workshop

My post: I want you to give a shit

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