what I want for my year.

What I want for my year. via Tiffany Han

I want to buy my house, and I want the process to be smooth and easy and comfortable.

I want to get a handle on all the money stuff, come up with a savings plan, and a retirement plan and a college plan for the girls.

I want to take care of all the things that need to be taken care of – the life insurance, the will, the passports, all the paperwork. I want to have systems so that we aren’t constantly being ruled by our to do lists.

I want to have quiet. Real quiet. Without the phone or screens or people pinging me.

I want to have dance parties. Every day. I want to move my body and wake up refreshed and eat real food and know what it is to be healthy and in control of how I feel.

I want to spend enough time with my friends. So that I look forward to being with them, put the phone away so that I can be present, and miss them once they’re gone.

I want to find time for myself, time to wander, and I want to teach the girls the same value of wandering and wondering.

I want to have less stuff to make room for experiences. Clean it all out, clear the clutter, and be able to live my life instead of constantly trying to make things fit, both literally and figuratively.

I want to love. I want everyone in my life to know how freaking much I adore them. I don’t ever want anyone to wonder what I was thinking.

I want to speak my truth, all of it, even when it makes me uncomfortable.

I want my voice to be heard – loud and clear.

I want to stand up straight, stand tall in who I am whether I’m standing on a stage or in my kitchen.

I want to be successful in a way that isn’t measured in money, but in time spent with my family, time spent writing shitty first drafts, time spent looking at the big picture and the little picture and finding my happy place with all of it.

But I also want to make money. I want to be able to support my family. I want to do it by following my intuition about the creative projects I want to take on, with more podcast episodes and collaborations and things that just seem fun instead of the things that seem like I’m following rules from someone else’s playbook.

I want to find that happy place of success – where I am making things happen without working my fingers to the bone, where I am finding ease in the work that I’m doing and how I’m doing it and who I’m doing it with.

I want to keep saying oh, hell yes to the things that spark joy in me and let the rest go. With grace and gratitude and forgiveness.

I want to release all the things that don’t fill me up to make room for something else.

I want to remember – every single day – that there is enough success and love and faith and grace and all of it for everyone. That the Universe is always conspiring in our favor. And that, the key to it all, is to get out of your own way, start getting quiet so that you can listen, and let it do its work.

I want to know that it’s scary, but do it anyway. I want to feel the thrill of the what if? and send the email or make the big ask or put myself in front of the eyeballs, knowing that, even if it doesn’t work, I really did try my hardest to make it happen.

I want to hold on to those emails I get from people, the ones that say it’s like you’re talking straight to me or you have no idea how much I needed this and know that this is why I’m doing the work I’m doing.

I want to keep writing those emails, the ones that I really write for myself, but looking back, hear the whisper of Someone else might need this too and so I hit send even though it feels vulnerable and I’m just not sure.

I want to keep going even though I’m never going to be 100% sure. To let those inklings of doubt and fear and thrill be the signs to take another step, that I’m on the right path. I want to let those be the things that motivate me and reinforce what I’m doing.

And I want to remember – through all of it – that, at the end of the day, the way that I feel when I open my eyes in the morning is what determines my success, not the numbers in my bank account or on my twitter followers list or in my website stats.

* this was inspired by my dear friend Michelle Ward’s post Dear Future Me. I highly recommend setting some goals for yourself down on paper.

** photo by Tim Han; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

*** see what happens when I join forces with Michelle and Erin? We are cooking up something magical (coming in March!) and omg. It’s going to be Legit y’all.

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Raise your hand. Say yes. with Laura Simms

Laura Simms on Raise your Hand Say Yes with Tiffany Han

You guys. I adore Laura Simms! This interview was so fun to do because 1. Laura is my friend and 2. She is so smart!

While I thought Laura and I would talk a lot about the hustle of being a new mom and an entrepreneur, our conversation quickly took a turn towards being about finding your purpose, appropriate because Laura helps people discover their purpose-driven careers as a career coach. We also talk about letting go of what other people are thinking, letting go of needing a “label” for yourself, and committing to something for the sake of learning.

Laura, you’re the best! It was such a treat having you on the show! Thank you!! 

PS. At the beginning of this episode, I also introduce something I’m super excited about: the Raise your Hand Say Yes book club. We’re starting with The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Get your copy now and give it a read – the episode where we discuss it will air on March 4!

PPS. If you like what you hear or are a fan of the podcast, please consider subscribing and submitting a review in iTunes. Thank you!

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Show Notes:

Connect with Laura: Website | Instagram | Twitter

Michelle Ward

My “don’t quit your day job” blog post

Laura’s “don’t quit your day job” blog post

Laura’s Your Career Homecoming program

Laura’s Find your Through Line worksheet

 

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Raise your hand. Say yes. with Kelly Rae Roberts

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I was super excited to talk with Kelly Rae Roberts this week on the podcast. She’s such a gift!

Kelly Rae and I started our conversation by talking about boundaries and how you can take care of yourself in this crazy share-everything world. We also talked about how to embrace change and follow those whispers to just do something already! We also covered parenting, creative practices, and getting quiet. There’s so much here!

Tweet us: As mentioned towards the end of the episode, Kelly Rae and I would LOVE to hear about the action you decided to take. Let us know on twitter! (Be sure to complete the tweet with your action!)

Kelly Rae, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. It was such a treat getting to spend time with you! 

PS. At the beginning of this episode, I also introduce something I’m super excited about: the Raise your Hand Say Yes book club. We’re starting with The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Get your copy now and give it a read – the episode where we discuss it will air in early March!

PPS. If you like what you hear or are a fan of the podcast, please consider subscribing and submitting a review in iTunes. Thank you!

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Show Notes:

Connect with Kelly Rae: website | twitter | facebook | instagram

Kelly Rae’s book: Taking Flight

Oprah’s Life you Want weekend

Miraval Resort

5-minute Journal

Mati Rose

the #wearyourjoy project

providence

Brené Brown

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thought of the day (plus last call on 50% off calendars!)

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It’s easier to pay attention to what everyone else is doing. It’s easier to sit back and watch everyone else do their work and hope that it will be your turn soon.

Today, do the not easier thing and keep your eyes on your own paper. Turn off all the noise of everyone else’s success and hop to it. You’ve got your own big work to do! (And, you’ve SO got this, Gorgeous.)

PS. Wednesday 1/21 is the LAST DAY to get your 2015 Calendar at 50% off using the code FINALFINAL. After that the etsy shop is getting shut down to make room for some rad new things in my biz.

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**graphics by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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Raise your hand. Say yes. With Nicole Stevenson & Delilah Snell

Nicole Stevenson and Delilah Snell of Craftcation on Raise your Hand Say Yes with Tiffany Han

Ahh, I love Nicole and Delilah from Craftcation so so much and was thrilled to have them on the show this week!

We talked a LOT about partnerships and creative collaborations, but we also talked about how to (creatively) make the best of a shitty situation, what to do when things go wrong, and how to let things go to make room for the new in your life.

Nicole and Delilah, you are the best and I can’t wait to hug you like crazy in March! 

PS. Speaking of April, did you know that I’ll be speaking at Craftcation 2015 along with some of my other creative friends (and podcast guests!) including: Kari Chapin, Emily McDowell, Elise Blaha Cripe, Mati McDonough…and so many more! Early bird tickets are still available. Get yours now, and we can sit on the beach together and have cocktails. It’s gonna be The Best.

PPS. If you like what you hear or are a fan of the podcast, please consider submitting a review in iTunes. Thank you!

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Craftcation 2015: March 26-29 in Ventura CA

Register Here (Early-bird registration available until 2/15)

Patchwork Show

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Raise your hand. Say yes. with Flora Bowley

Raise your Hand Say Yes with Flora Bowley

Flora Bowley is someone I could interview for the podcast each and every week, knowing that we’d never run out of things to talk about! I was so excited to get to chat with her and think that this episode is the perfect one for us to kick off 2015 with!

This week, Flora and I talk about letting go. I love her take on working through the process of creating, whether you’re a painter or a writer or just a human being trying to exist in this crazy world. We also talked about the awkward teenage years of the creative process and making choices. And, did you know that Flora changed her name a few years ago? You know I asked her about that too!

Flora, thank you for shining your light on this episode. You are a gift. 

PS. If you like what you hear or are a fan of the podcast, please consider submitting a review in iTunes. Thank you!

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thought of the day.

Your creative work matters.

If there’s any lesson you take into this new year, let this be it.

Your work matters just as much as anyone else’s. Your voice is meant to be heard just as much as anyone else’s. You have just as much to say.

(And we’re so ready to hear you.)

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

2015 Sparkle & Shine wall calendar from Tiffany Han

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on creative commitments…and my new 365 project

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I once heard about an experiment that was done on two groups of high school students in art class.

The first group was told at the beginning of the semester that they were going to learn how to make pottery. But the only thing they’d be graded on was quantity. The students would be graded solely on how much clay they used during the semester, regardless of quality.

The second group was told that their goal was to create the perfect bowl. They would only submit one piece at the end of the semester and their entire grade would be based on that.

Can you guess which group had the higher quality pieces by the end of the semester? Right. The quantity group.

Malcolm Gladwell talks about how it takes 10,000 hours to master something. We always hear about the beginners’ mindset.

Yet, as adults, we all want to be good at things straight out of the gate. In school, we’re trained that knowing the right answer is what gets you the good grade, so we stop learning how to learn. We stop letting ourselves work through the process of not knowing. We don’t spend time learning process. We just want to fast forward to the end. 

I have always felt a pull toward drawing and making art. I used to have an etsy shop where I sold prints of my paintings. I ran an art studio and workshop space so that I could take any classes I wanted. I love the idea of making funny, sweet, simple art.

But. I don’t think I’m any good at it.

I’ve also always admired people who commit to year-long creative endeavors but I knew I had to do something so very simple given everything I have going on.

So, welcome to my new #positdaily experiment. My goal: to make a piece of post-it art every day for a yea that I’ll post on instagram daily (if you want to follow along). 

This makes me nervous but I love public declarations because they keep me from chickening out on myself. I love the idea of making art that’s easy and quick and loose. Of not being able to overthink because you’re going to have to make something again tomorrow too, Tiffany!

And I love the idea of really seeing if I can do it. Will I be a brilliant and prolific post-it artist by the end of this experiment? Maybe. But regardless, I’ll have 365 sweet little pieces of art that mean something to me.

How about you? Any year-long challenges you want to undertake? You know I’m a fan.

PS. Happy 2015! There are a few Sparkle & Shine calendars left!

PPS. There are still a few hours left to enter the word of the year giveaway.

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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RAISE YOUR HAND. SAY YES. WITH Bari Tessler Linden

Bari Tessler Linden on Raise your Hand Say Yes with Tiffany Han

Finally, the episode about money! When I thought about money talk, I knew that I had to have Bari Tessler Linden on the show – she is The Person who knows how to deal with all the money stuff, from the ins and outs of bookkeeping to overcoming money shame and bad habits. Bonus, she’s super nice and lovely to talk with!

In this episode, we talk about how to start (my favorite!) getting your money game in order, from the spiritual to the practical. Bari points out that your Money Story is your Life Story and that getting one in order will always impact the other! We also talk about what to do when the need to Quit your Day Job is chomping at your heels and what to do if you already have your own business.

I hope to have many more conversations about money on this show. Because we all could use a reframe when it comes to money and finances and earning.

Thank you Bari! You are a delight! 

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word of the year (plus a calendar giveaway!)

Word of the year.

This will be my third year choosing a word and hosting a giveaway.

For 2013, I chose Shine.

My word for 2014 was Adventure.

The magical thing about choosing these words for the year is that they don’t go away after December 31. I still try to bring the spirit of shining into everything I do. And I try to live every day as an adventure (hello! Trader Joe’s with two babies: Adventure!).

For my 2015 word, I threw around a few options. One was Bigger – I want to grow my business, I want to reach more people with the work that I do. I want to go Bigger. (Just not in terms of my ass.) This is something that I’ve already committed to doing with my work in 100 Rejection Letters.

The other word I considered was Deeper. I want to deepen what I’m doing, dig in, go beyond the surface and see what comes of me chasing fewer ideas down their corresponding rabbit holes and developing just a few more fully.

But something stopped me with both of these words: the work involved. I’m not saying that I’m against doing the work. I’m not. In fact, Doing the Work is one of my favorite things ever. But, I’m against doing the work for the sake of the struggle.

I’m ready to let go of the idea that effort = struggle, that the only way to succeed is by pushing and pushing and pushing until something breaks.

I’m ready to embrace the idea that the work that comes the most easily to me is the same thing that the world needs. While I will still put forth the effort to write and create and share my work, I don’t need to bang my head against the wall to get the ideas to flow. I just need to sit quietly and let them out.

Ease. I’m ready to welcome a sense of ease into what I do. I am ready to let myself be surprised at how easy things can actually be… all while growing my business and going deeper into the work that I’m creating.

I’m committing to all of it, but I want to find the easy way around.

Again, this doesn’t mean that I want to find the way that doesn’t require work. I work hard. I sit down to write even when I don’t feel like it. I take risks, I put myself out there before I’m ready, hit send even when I think my ideas are crazy or that no one will get it.

All of this requires effort. But it doesn’t have to require struggle.

I’ve talked a lot this month about how I’m shifting things in my business – I hadn’t realized until now that this points to ease.

And now it’s your turn! I love hearing the words that you come up with for your year – and I’m hosting a giveaway yet again.

To enter for a chance to win both a 2015 Sparkle & Shine calendar and a Make Out with Yes letterpress poster, leave a comment here sharing your word for 2015 (or your reason for NOT choosing a word!) by 5pm PST on Friday, January 2. I’ll draw a winner at random.

Happy new year, everyone! No matter what word you choose (or if you don’t choose a word at all!), I wish you a year filled with magic!

Update: Congratulations, Katie, on winning the giveaway! Check your inbox :) 

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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