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Relax your shoulders. Unclench your jaw. Today we’re talking surrender. While the word itself may summon images of everything from a day spa to a white-flag failure, I’m here to drive home the facts:
What you can do is join me today with an open mind and a willingness to explore some new perspectives around infusing a little surrender into your everyday. Let’s see how much more fun we can have when we loosen our grips and toil a bit less.
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Tiffany Han: Hey, Hey, Hey, welcome to The Tiffany Han Show, a weekly podcast that teaches highly ambitious people how to have lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. If you are ready to dive into discovering Delight in your life, starting today, be sure to check out my free five-day Radical Delight kickstart over at tiffanyhan.com. And, while you're there; you can also find extended episode archives, show notes, and more. Thanks for being here. Now, onto the show.
Tiffany Han: Hey, Hey everybody. Welcome back to the Tiffany Han Show. Thank you so much for being here. We are going to be talking all about Surrender today. I want to give y'all a heads-up that, feel like when we say we're going to talk about Surrender, it's like, ‘oh man, do we have to?’ We do.
We don't have to, but we get to, and my goal for today's episode is to give you some different perspectives, some new perspectives; maybe some much more helpful, maybe some more maybe perspectives that are more helpful and useful to you as you consider your life and your days, how you move through your world and where you might be able to insert some Surrender. How infusing surrender into some things that maybe you are currently tightly gripping so much, I know it can't just be me, might make your life more fun and easy. It might make new ideas come to you in different ways. And, it might actually, go with me here, help you be more focused and effective at the things that you are giving your energy to. That's right. That's right.
We often can walk through our lives feeling like the only way to accomplish, do achieve, finish things is if we control them; and really, ‘I got to work really hard and toil at them.’ My goal here with my show, right, not just today's episode, but with my show is to help you, help myself, help all of us design lives that allow us to both have ambition and goals and put our energy into things that we feel really important while also prioritizing ourselves, how we want to feel, finding restoration, being able to rest, learning how to chill out.
And, not only that, because it's real easy to be like, ‘I need to self-care and rest up so I can go do more,’ and just bounce back and forth on the two ends of that spectrum. But also, so that we can have more fun, so that we can enjoy the days of our lives more, no matter what the circumstances are; no matter if we are having a restful day or a fun day or a day we're connecting with people or a day where things work and we feel six successful or a day where honestly, they don't work and we feel-- [laughs] Well, that didn't work.
That we get to be who we are throughout all of these days. And, what starts to happen is that we learn how to define our value and our worth based on more than just our accomplishments. That is the goal, right? Right?
Okay. Before I get into my things about Surrender and where you can start or where you can look next, because I'm guessing this is not your first surrender rodeo, a couple of housekeeping things and something that I am just, y'all, so ding-dang excited about. #1 I mentioned on the previous episode, Episode 409 that I was doing these conversation chats with people just to help me prepare for some upcoming Grown-Up Gap Year stuff.
Think about how your ambition and your high-achieving standards might be running amok in your head and getting in the way of you having a life that feels as good as it looks. And, y'all, it has been the best. I have been absolutely loving these calls. And, I've decided to open up a few more, in case, you want one of those.
As of recording time, there are still a handful of spots open. I'm doing them until the end of April. So, if you are interested in having-- This is a 30-minute chat, completely pitch-free. I just have some questions that I'd love to ask you. It's my chance to get to connect with you.
If you would love to chat with the person behind the podcast via Zoom, it is 100% pitch-free, I am not selling anything, then you can click on the link in the show notes. And, as long as there are still spots available, it will pop up and let you jump on my calendar.
If all the spots are gone by the time you try to get on that calendar, just keep an ear out because if I have time in July and August, I might be able to open up some more of those spots, because it really has been such a fun opportunity for me to get to connect with people.
If you're wondering if you should click on that link, if you are someone who is hungry for a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, and you haven't worked with me yet; then yes, you are the person for that. Second housekeeping piece; and y'all, this is something I am like, an idea that I'm completely surrendering to. I have a brand-new free event to share with y'all, and it is a Bake-Along.
That's right. I have been wanting-- Y'all, I have been wanting-- We're talking about surrender, right? I have been wanting to try this for-- I think a couple of years now I've had this idea, what if I could just like bake something on Zoom and have people come and either bake with me or hang out with me and we could talk about something having to do with our lives, but while baking something?
And, I decided last week, you know what? This idea is not leaving me alone, really great way to know which ideas you should follow; and, I think that it's time to do it. So, The Tiffany Han Show presents a Bake-Along event.
This event is happening on Tuesday, April 26th, via Zoom at 11:00 AM Pacific Standard Time or 2:00 PM Eastern Standard Time. There will be a link in the show notes to RSVP. Again, it's completely free. I am going to be baking. And, if you would like to bake along with me, you are more than welcome. If you would like to bake this, we can bake it together.
I've never made it before. Or if you want to bake something thing else, go for it. Or if you don't want to bake at all, fantastic, there is no wrong answers as you approach this. I am going to be baking The Great British Bake Offs: Prue's Chocolate Mini Rolls. These were a technical challenge on one of the recent episodes I watched; and I was like, ‘this is it.’ I believe they had an hour to can make it. I will be setting a timer. The Great British Bake Offs website says it only takes 45 minutes to make, I'm guessing it'll take an hour.
And, then the take, right? What take are we going to talk about? I don't know, the bake and the take. I'm trying to work out the language here, but I'm looking for something that rhymes, of course. The take is that we are going to be talking about trying new things because, right, it's very meta as I try new things; and we can talk about trying new things when we bake the chocolate mini rolls.
If you have questions about it, how to prepare, all of that; click on the link in the show notes, or you can go to tiffanyhan.com/letsbake, L-E-T-S B-A-K-E to get all your questions answered, RSVP and save your spot. Will I be sharing a recording of this? I have no idea because I don't know how it's going to go. It could be a completely disaster or it could be awesome; I could release it as a podcast episode.
I have no idea, but I'm only making the promise of being able to get it to you if you attend live. So, it's not going to be something where I'm going to be emailing out the recording afterwards, because again, I don't know how it's going to go. So, if you want to be there and attend live, then RSVP. If you cannot attend live, don't worry about RSVPing because I'm not going to send out the re-play. Okay.
Surrender. I feel like I just, I'm like smiling so big getting to announce my Bake-Along. Will I be doing other Bake-Alongs? I hope so. Isn't that fun? I really hope so. I think it'd be fun to do like podcast episodes where I interview people, but we're also baking. Ugh. That's like my dream, y'all, my dream.
Okay. Here are the things-- I started with one thing, and then I just kept going on my list. The things about Surrender. These are in no particular order. And, I want you as you listen, I want you to try to stay open to hearing something new or hearing a different take on something that you've thought, ‘this is the way things happen. This is the way things are supposed to be done.’ You never know when insight is going to come and settle into you.
And, what I have found is that the more that I think I know what's going to happen, those are usually the moment when I'm most surprised. So, maybe allow yourself to be surprised. Let's see where we can go on Surrender, right? Surrender to the unknown. Do you see, you see that right there? Yeah. Do you see what I'm doing? I know. It's like we could just call this The Meta Show with Tiffany Han.
Okay. Number one. Y'all, this is like what I wish someone had told me so long ago, so long ago; surrender the idea of surrendering, the idea of letting go, the idea of acceptance, which is one of my five pillars of Radical Self-Belief. It sounds easier and more peaceful than it actually is. So, if you are a person who's like surrender. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Doesn't come naturally.
Or if you are, I don't know, maybe a high achiever who has really high standards and sets really high expectations and your whole life, you have been rewarded for your ability to be good at things, right? You’ve been rewarded for your ability to play whatever game you are in, whether it's school or work or promotions, or older relatives thinking that you are just so charming, and you perform without even maybe even realizing it; don't get mad, because I know I do it too.
Enneagram 3 here, right? I know what role I need to play. There comes a point in life when we have to undertake something that doesn't come naturally, that we are not great at, right out of the gate, that maybe there is no formula. There is no game to play, right? It's just about being with the discomfort of it being with the, no, however we spell that is.
And, often for people like us, when we hit that place, it's so unfamiliar; that uncertainty, that ‘I don't know’, that our being-- I think this happens unconsciously, right? Our being is like, ‘Nope, Nope, Nope. That must not be for me because I'm not good at it. Nope. Mm-hmm. Take it away. Take it away, take it away.’ And, if you are really good at strategizing and organizing and project managing your way through everything and getting all the things done--
And, really I am a hard worker. I can work as hard as they need me to. Then when it's time to surrender, which, y'all, involves actually like maybe doing nothing. [laughs] When it's time to surrender, it's going to like as peaceful as that sounds, the hurricane raging inside you is going to kick up so much turmoil, so much ‘I don’t know what I'm doing’. Oh my God. So much of that.
So much angst, so much just, ‘ah, I don't know how to do this’, I don’t know how to do nothing and sit still. I don’t know how to let go. I don’t know how to relax my grip.’ Relax your grip with Tiffany Han. So, Surrender is actually-- It's like this thing that you grapple with, right? I think it's the same for faith; that we think faith means, ha, that we just like sit and pray and trust that the universe will like reign inspiration down upon us.
No, I think faith is something that goes hand-in-hand with doubt, right? Surrender is something that goes hand-in-hand with trying to be in charge of all the things, and then hitting that humble place that I know I hit all the time where it's like, ‘oh, I have so much less control than I think. And, this is not my thing to do.’
Oh God, that feels not great. What about this? What about this? What about this? Right? So, surrender is something you grapple with. And so, if you have started to think about surrender and you've found yourself entering the grappling phase, and then you, ah, ha, because you tell yourself that you must be doing it wrong; I want you to know that you are doing it 100% right.
That it is something you grapple with, that it is something that you reckon with, that it is something that doesn't come naturally to us, that we get to have faith in and try to find our way in, but it's probably going to feel messy and it's probably going to feel uncomfortable and it's probably going to feel like you're doing it wrong. And so, if you are feeling those ways, then you're exactly where you need to be.
Okay. Number #2. The second thing about surrender is that I can often feel like a weakness because I can't do it. It's a deficiency, right? It's that we finally met our match and there's something that we cannot accomplish our way through; and we feel weak, and we feel lazy, and we feel like we are giving up on ourselves or giving up on somebody else by needing to surrender.
And, when I think about the weakness piece, like the things, right, the stories that we tell ourselves or the things that we believe or the things that we've been conditioned to believe really by so many different aspects of culture; so many, so many that have so much even unseen influence on how we move through our lives. I think about the serenity prayer. Now, the serenity prayer is something that is often used in AA. And, this is the short version of the serenity prayer.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
And, whether or not you believe in God, this is-- You can say universe or just intuition.
Hey, intuition, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Grant me the serenity to surrender.
Now, because I want to look up-- Because I want to look up definitions of everything and the etymology, the definition of serenity is the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled. So, essentially, this prayer is asking, ‘please let me find peace with the things I cannot change. Please let me find peace with the things that I cannot change.’
Yeah. Now I want you to pause for a minute before I get into the rest of this and just think about, how many things in your life have you thought, whether in real-life externally, or just internally with the like, ah, the feelings of not being able to change. I'm not saying that all of that, Ugh, is for nothing.
I'm not saying that you should not do it, that you should be upset with yourself for it. I think that like feeling for frustration about things is actually important, right? Being angry about things. But how many times have you tried to change things that were not yours to change?
Whether because they were somebody else's problem or because you didn't have the ability to get in there and change, or how many times in your life, pointing my finger back at myself now, have you been like, ‘I want to change this huge thing about the world’, and then you just dwell on it and like run in circles, thinking on it, feeling unempowered.
And, all the while, you are completely forgetting and neglecting the things that you actually could change. Maybe a little closer to home, maybe a little bit more relevant to where you are in your life. Maybe, maybe.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Now, this is where I want to go with Surrender. It's that it feels like weakness. And, to me, I think that Surrender and the ability to surrender and the ability to discern, right? Discernment is that first pillar of Radical Self-Belief. The ability to discern when surrender is needed. It's not weakness, y'all. It's wisdom.
And, it's the kind of wisdom that comes through experience, through at trying things, through experimenting, through slowing down, through letting things be, giving ourselves a ton of grace, right? Five pillars of Radical Self-Belief DF-STAG, discernment, faith, spirit-tending, acceptance, grace, wisdom.
Surrender feels weak, but it's actually wisdom. Next. Ooh, y'all, you can't force your way into it. I know we are so good at forcing our way into things, ‘I'm just going to power through.’ You can't power through into surrender. Do you see-- Like, we think that that's the answer. We think that's the answer. You can't power through into surrender. So, instead, what you get to think about, the goal becomes loosening your grip.
That the effort that you make when surrendering, is in not efforting. And so, how do you effort into non-effort? You exhale. I'm going to work so hard to do nothing. Do you see how that is this like, even as I said that, y'all, just now, I , felt my neck tense up. I felt the muscles and my neck bulge a little, completely unintentionally. Ugh. My jaw is like set. Where in your days could you loosen your grip a little? Where could you loosen your grip?
Now, another thing about surrender, talking about loosening your grip. It's not the same as giving up. Surrender doesn't mean complacency. It doesn't mean screw it, whatever. And, that is what all-or-nothing thinking, that is where all-or-nothing thinking will lead you. Right? All-or-nothing thinking that black-and-white thinking is going to say, “Either power through and work hard and go, go, go, go, go.” Or I just,’ okay, fine, Tiffany, I'll just surrender. And, now what?’
Right? And actually, both of those things-- [laughs] Both of those things are pointing to, ‘you are the only one that can do it’ as either power through and it gets done; or the flip side is, fine, I just let go and then it never gets done at all, but fine. I hope you're happy.’ Y’all, these are the ways that we talk to ourselves.
This is how we talk to ourselves, which doesn't feel good. I don't even like saying it to you on the podcast, hypothetically. Surrendering is not the same as giving up. When you think about your grip, when you think about how tightly we grip things, I want you to, if you can, whatever you're doing right now; maybe even like, if you're taking a walk or whatever, you can do this without even holding anything.
But if you can, if you're driving, you've got the steering wheel. If you are washing dishes, you've got a dish rag in your hand. If you are painting, paintbrush, you know, whatever, whatever it is that you're doing, I want you to do this experiment with me in this moment, please. If you're not holding onto anything, you can do it even without anything in your hand.
I want you to, with either you're holding something or just make a fist and like tighten like squeeze really, really hard with your fist or squeeze really, really hard holding onto the thing that you are holding onto. And, I want you to feel like the tension in your hand. I want you to feel the tension moving into your forearm, and then up your arm into your shoulder. Right? I want you to feel--
As I'm doing it right now, my hand is shaking a little bit. Like, I'm putting a lot of effort into this. It's not comfortable, right? It's not comfortable. Like, my fingernails are digging into my hand a little bit, the palm of my hand; and just pay attention to how hard you have to work to maintain the script. How hard you have to work to hold onto that thing, right? How long do you think you can do it? How effective are you at it?
Now, you probably know where this is going. Now I want you to loosen your grip, whatever you're holding, hold it more loosely in a way that you're still holding the thing or making the fist, but it's not such a tight grip. Right? Relax your grip. Now, when I said, “Relax your grip,” did any of you just let go of the steering wheel and lost all ability to hold the steering wheel? No, no. There goes my dish sponge.
Thanks a lot, Tiffany, you ruined my dish sponge. No, right? That's not how it works. So, within death-grip versus loosey-goosey hand, holding on to nothing; do you see how there's so much room for that in-between? You can still surrender and be effective. It's like, if you're in water, there's a difference between floating and just letting yourself sink.
But the world that we live in and the way that we are used to going through things and our expectations and all of the obligations we have, surrendering feels like letting everybody down, letting everything go; that we can never put our hands back on the steering wheel, but it's not true. Right? Those feelings, I get it. Feel that way. Yes, absolutely. We're not shaming anybody for feeling that way, feel that way.
But know that the way it feels does not dictate what's actually happening, the feelings are feelings that we have all the time. They aren't necessarily reality. In fact, most of the time, they're not reality. My feelings tell me things all the time. That's really good that I don't listen to. [laughs] So, there is this way that we tell ourselves that if we surrender, then that means we don't care. And, that's not true. Think back to that Serenity Prayer;
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
So, in those moments, when you've really, really, really don't want to surrender; I get it. Think about where you can put courage towards things you can change. Think about where you can apply some wisdom and some discernment and some grace. Give yourself the grace to surrender. The things in your life where it feels like you're banging your head against the wall and you can't make any progress, the answer is not to keep banging your head harder.
The answer is not to become more disciplined at banging your head against the wall so that you eventually can go through. The answer is not to be sure to wake up earlier so you can start banging your head against the wall to eventually get through to the other side. There's a surrender, a pulling back, a rethinking, a reimagining possible. But first, you have to stop, right? First, you have to be able to surrender just to the truth of like, ‘oh Man, seriously?’
Yes, seriously. Try it, try it, try it, try it. So, that's another thing about surrender is that it actually, where it feels like weakness, it feels like giving up, it feels like complacency; it actually leads to agency. It actually leads to empowerment. It actually leads to you being more effective towards the things that you care about. It actually leads to deep wisdom about the things that you can control.
It actually leads to a different kind of action, and a different kind of resonance, a different kind of alignment for you with the things that you're giving your time, your energy to. Which then leads to more flow, more creativity, more delight, more feeling good. But my inner voice is saying, ‘I know that inner voice just needs to be ba-ba-ba all the time.’ It's like a radio that has no ‘off ‘switch. ‘Oh, look, we're doing like the sports scores again.’
It's like that. It's like on AM 680, no ‘off’ switch. And, it's going. And, sometimes it gets really loud. I know. I wish that I could tell you right now, ‘this is the very easy answer to making that voice be quiet. It will get quieter. You'll get more used to it.’ But that voice is always going to be there.
So, let's see what happens when you surrender to the fact that it's present and then decide what you want to do anyway. That is surrender, right? That is surrender right there. See, you see how it works.
Okay. Now, here is my counterintuitive final thing about surrender. Now final, right? These are all the thoughts about Surrender forever and ever. Amen. No, there will be more thoughts on surrender. Of course. My final for today, thing about surrender is that sometimes surrendering actually involves doing more. Yeah. Yeah.
Sometimes surrendering means letting the thing that doesn't make any sense take over. So, I spent my morning creating a graphic for my new Bake-Along: The Tiffany Han Show Presents. It's a Bake-Along, right, where we're going to make some chocolate mini rolls that I've never made before. And, we're going to talk about at trying new things. Is this a good idea? It feels good in this moment. I have surrendered to it.
And, I'll tell you, because I started outlining this episode over the weekend. And, then I was like in the surrender place and decided to give myself permission to surrender to some ideas that I've had for a while that are not like the “official good ideas”, but they are ideas that won’t leave me alone.
And, I was like, ‘fine, I'm going to surrender to them.’ And, that's okay. I'm going to just let it-- It's like a wave washing over me, and I'm going to see what happens. And, y'all, let me tell you, Tiffany Han has been so ding, ding lit up in thinking about all of this, and working on it, and making it real. And energetically, the way that I am showing up is so much different than trying to force myself to work on something that is a good idea, but that I'm not connected with.
And, in my Year of No, I was like, ‘I'm not going to do that.’ I am saying, no, to that. I am saying, no, to forcing my way through. And, if that means I do less things, fewer things, because I don't want to force my way through them; great. And, if that means that I have to surrender to not knowing what's next; great. I have done that, y'all.
I spent, oh, you know, the first three and a half months of the year doing that and not knowing and saying, ‘I'm surrendered. I don't know. I can't force it. I can't death-grip it. We'll see. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.’ People will be like, how's it going? Well, good. I'm saying no a lot, but I don't know what's next. I finally know what's next. I'm baking some mini rolls, y'all.
So, surrendering doesn't always mean doing nothing. It doesn't always mean even doing less. Sometimes the surrender is letting yourself know what you know; letting the truth be the truth and being like, ‘I need to-- I need to go work on this right now.’
And, for me, that's how so much of my stuff gets created. I think that it's easy to think that someone like me who creates a lot of content has this like very ritualized morning routine where I do the things; and yeah, it happens sometimes.
But for the most part, my ideas come to me when I'm living my life, when I'm thinking about other things, when I'm distracted with other things, and then it's like, oh, that. The outline for this episode came to me, I knew that I wanted to talk about surrender.
The outline for this episode came to me on Saturday morning, Saturday; no, Sunday morning when I begrudgingly woke up at 6:30 because I couldn't sleep and I got out of bed grumpily because everyone else in my house was asleep. So, why wasn't I? That's when I outlined this episode, did I get up to work on my podcast? Nope. It just showed up. Okay. Okay. Okay.
So hopefully, by this point, you've bought in to the idea of surrender, or at least you have bought into, begrudgingly, maybe trying to find your way there. And, I will take that. I will take the like, kind of way of muddling through. So, what now? Where can you look next?
I want to give you a few questions to think about, a few questions to think about answering. And, we can also include these in the show notes, just for easy reference, especially if you are somewhere where you are unable to write this down, you know, if you're driving or you're out and about. And, we also-- This is our first episode where we are featuring a transcript.
This is something that I'm really excited to bring to the show now that I'm doing every other week episodes and have a little bit more time. So, you can go to tiffanyhan.com/podcast, click on this week's episode and get the transcript. It'll be within that post. So, here are the places for you to look next, really the questions for you to consider. Number #1, what truths aren't you telling? Where are you quieting yourself?
Maybe where are you performing as the person you think you're supposed to be in whatever situation, instead of giving yourself permission to be who you are with what you're feeling right now in this moment, what truths aren't you telling? And, then as an extension of that, what could happen if you let your truth be true? If you surrendered to that, you said things out loud, what might be possible then?
Second question. What are you avoiding because you don't want it to be true? I do this all the time with like my email. I see an email and I'm like, ‘oh, I'm going to have to deal with this, but I don't want to, because I don't have to tell the person that can't do the thing or whatever.’ Usually, I don't want to have to set the boundary. And, a couple weeks ago, I realized what I was doing. And, I was like, ‘oh, this is a pattern, you need to stop Tiffany Han.’
And so, what I'm practicing now is when I-- I still do the thing, right? I still have that habitual avoidance reaction. And, then what I get to do is, you know, I read it and then I click, mark is on red so I'll come back to it later. And, then I walk away and then I think, ‘no, no, no, go do it now. Go do it now. Just say the thing.’
And, I never want to, and I'm always glad I did. It's one of those situations. So, what are you avoiding because you don't want it to be true? Now, this is where I need to point out that avoiding something because you don't want it to be true, moving beyond that, saying ‘no’ to that doesn't mean that you have to have all the answers. It doesn't mean that you have to aggressively deal with the thing. It doesn't mean that you have to dig in and be brave and just handle, you know, I mean, for me, email low stakes. Sometimes we're avoiding things that we don't want to be true for self-protection, to protect our hearts, to protect ourselves, to protect people around us.
I want to invite in the discernment here, as we think about this and as you answer the question. Are you willing to let something be true and also not know how to deal with it? Are you ready to let something be true; and also say, “I'm not ready to tell anyone yet, I'm not ready it out loud, I'm not ready to confront it?” You can let it be true, but not be ready to confront it or deal with it.
Both of those can be true at the same time. And, do you see where Radical Self-Belief comes in into this? Is that by letting it be true, you're surrendering control because often, things that are true are not things that we would ever choose, especially if they're uncomfortable, ‘I want to be everything to everyone, I'm not going to choose this.’ So, there's a Radical Self-Belief move in accepting and surrendering to the truth of whatever it is.
And, then the discernment says, “I still don’t know what to do next.” And, the grace makes that okay. And, the faith says, “One day you will be.” And, then the spirit-tending is what really helps us anchor into ourselves. See how all of this works together. Do you see it? Do you see, do you see? Okay, the third question for you to think about, although I know I've given you like 10 questions, but, you know, [laughs] that's how we do things here.
The third question is, where are you exhausting yourself with mental gymnastics to “fix something that isn't actually your problem to solve”? Where are you exhausting yourself with mental gymnastics to fix something that is not your problem to solve? Maybe there are a few places.
This is something that I did all the time on social media is I would see all kinds of things that were sad and hard and heartbreaking that I wasn't in a position to “fix or solve”, but it just kept me, oh. It kept me in the cycle of grief and despair, but it wasn't empowered. I didn't feel empowered to do anything. I just stayed in this spin. Another question could just be, where are you exhausting yourself with mental gymnastics?
Another question could be, where are your high standards and high expectations actually working against you because they are so high that you could never achieve them? You could never reach them. Yeah. Yeah. And, what could happen if you surrendered to that and gave yourself the grace to lower them and trusted that you would be okay? Because you will. You'll. What about that? What about that?
Okay, y'all, please let me know how this episode resonated with you. If you had any light bulb moments, I would love to hear from you. Please RSVP for the Bake-Along tiffanyhan.com/letsbake, L-E-T-S B-A-K-E. I'm so excited about that. Check out the transcript if you want to dive deeper into this.
Thank you all for being here. I so appreciate you, more soon, and I can't wait to see what we get to cook up together next; see, baking, Bake-Along, podcasting, cook-up. Do you see how I did that? Yes. Okay. Take care, more soon.
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